tweak xml/yml syntax

[15:00] <jwage> we need to write the schema file for the xml
[15:00] <jwage> and maybe expand the xml and yaml syntax
[15:00] <jwage> to have <reference
[15:00] <jwage> <embedded
[15:00] <jwage> etc
[15:00] <avalanche123> ah, I see, to make it more like ORM?
[15:01] <jwage> i think so
[15:01] <jwage> it's just better
[15:01] <jwage> you dont have to specify embedded=true
[15:01] <avalanche123> right
[15:01] <jwage> when reading in the <embedded you will just set that
[15:01] <jwage> in the array